the eggs have been laid for 3 days now and today after a small water change the male left his cave for the first time in days and that enabled me to look in....
iv never seen any clutch of eggs this big before, way over 20 eggs.... more like 30!!!

but the problem is after the water change my male left his cave and as i speak he is violently attacking the female, slapping his tail....
he's been out for about 10 mins...
i was wondering is this is normal.... why is it happening and will he return to tend to the eggs as im worried the other male might claim his cave back and eat them all!
should i leave them????
plz advise